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Being Single During the Holidays

It can sometimes be a tough experience to be single, in general, and can become even tougher during the holiday season. It's during this time of year that people really settle in to spending time with their significant others, spouses, relatives or friends. This year, perhaps, will strengthen this trend even more.

If you're a person who is currently not in a significant relationship the holidays can be a lonely time. You might feel a bit isolated and “out of touch”. As if everyone is enjoying the holiday season with a loved one EXCEPT for you.

Having spent several such holiday seasons, I'd like to offer a few tips, which (I've learned) can make navigating the holidays as a single person just a bit easier.

Make certain you have plans or arrangements in place to manage the actual holiday itself. This may include inviting your friends over for dinner or going to a friend's house for dinner or a party. It may also include volunteering at a soup kitchen (I did this one year and met some wonderful people), or consciously deciding to make that day a sacred time for you to spend with yourself. Whatever you decide, please don't skimp on the relaxation and enjoyment or the good food.

Make certain that you retain any traditions or holiday experiences that are important to you. One of my clients used to bake Christmas cookies as a child, something she loved to do. She chose to resume this practice last year, and enjoyed her “baking day” thoroughly. She felt relaxed, connected, and was very happy at re-experiencing one of her favorite childhood activities.

Make certain you don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. Too often, when we're single, people presume that we have nothing to do during the holidays. We might be called on to do extra chores, extra shopping or to provide extra childcare. If you are asked to do something like this, and want to do it, that's great! (and please, go ahead) but, IF NOT, then please feel free to decline gracefully. This is your holiday season, too, so enjoy!

Make certain that you are at your most calm, centered and radiant when you do go out to meet people. Being single in the holidays can be really fun if you're feeling good and looking your best. Dress up, lighten up, and enjoy. Try to get into the spirit of the holidays even if you're not completely feeling it. Sometimes you have to “act like” so you can “feel like”.

Make certain you count your blessings and are connected with gratitude. Focusing on what you lack makes that lack even larger.

Finally, another strategy is to plan a great vacation or other exotic trip during the holiday season. Having something to look forward to can ease the feelings of loneliness which might creep up during this time. There are groups and organizations which create tour/vacation packages for singles. These might be a great option to consider. (And, of course, these might even be Level III Attraction Venues!)

Whatever you decide to do, enjoy it! You will be at your most attractive and able to draw wonderful people and opportunities into your life. Happy Holidays!

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