Dealing with Rejection

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Dealing with Rejection - June 2002-June 2002

Volume I, Issue 7

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1. Welcome to Live Your Best!

2. Dealing with Rejection: 5 tips in 5 minutes

3. Opportunities & Resources

4. Invitation to Live Your Best!

5. Subscribe/Unsubscribe Information

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Dear Live Your Best Subscriber,

Welcome to our June issue, where, as you read on,

you'll notice a change in format. Rather than a

longer feature article, we'll be shifting to a new

format- 5 coaching tips in 5 minutes. This, I hope,

will be more useful and easier to read. Let me know

what you think!

In this issue, we'll tackle the topic of rejection-

how to deal with it and recover from it.

I hope you enjoy this issue, and I'll see you again

in July.

Warmly,

Rachna

*Please feel free to pass this issue along to people

that you care about!*

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Dealing with Rejection

By Dr. Rachna D. Jain

Most of us have probably experienced rejection at least a

few times in our life- more, probably, if we are more

accustomed to taking risks.

While rejection never feels good, here are five tips to

make it easier to manage:

1) Allow yourself to experience your feelings.

This may mean anger, sadness, irritation, annoyance,

anything related to whatever has occurred. The sooner you

allow your feelings to come out, the sooner you can get

them out of your way.

2) Revisit your past successes.

When something doesn't go as planned, there is often

a tendency for us to "forget" all the times when our life

did go exactly (or better!) than we planned. If you have

been keeping a success journal, as I've previously

suggested, please do refer to it when you need a reminder

of how accomplished and capable you really are.

3) Don't take it personally.

I know, I know, we've all heard this one before. I'm not

sure, all the time, that I understand how not to take it

personally, but here are some ideas I have- perhaps we can

think of the 'rejection' as a "no, not now" rather than a

"no, not ever". Knowing that we will likely have another

chance or opportunity to go after what we want may take some

of the sting out of not getting it this time.

4) Look for the positive aspects of the situation.

Again, this can be challenging to do, but is definitely

worth it. No matter how unfair, or negative, or otherwise "not

good" something is, there is probably something positive in it,

somewhere. At least, if nothing else, we've learned more about

what we absolutely, positively DO NOT want. Which gives us clarity,

and can help in future actions.

5) Develop support in many different areas of your life.

The best time to create new support is when you are

happy and feeling great. Having some extra support structures-

whether a few new acquaintances, or strengthening ties with

long-time friends- can go a long way in softening any of the

rejections of life. Take a few minutes to deposit some extra

kindnesses in the "bank" of your friendships- you'll have a lot

more to withdraw whenever you need it.

So my five minutes are up- see you next month!

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Opportunities & Resources

This has been a very busy month- lots of new things

in the works. Here's a brief listing:

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Advance praise has been highly positive, and the copies are

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You can visit him at http://www.jimdonovan.com.

[Tell him I sent you!]

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Invitation to Live Your Best!

This month, I invite you to add to, or begin, your success journal. Go

back as far as you can remember and list all the successes you've had in

your life to date- no matter how big or small. I began my

list several months ago- and it's already pages and pages long.

It's been really fun. Consider trying it!

If you'd like to learn more about coaching and how it can help you

create more successes for your life (and your journal!) please contact

me to arrange a complimentary consultation.

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