Forgive Yourself First - February 2003

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Forgive Yourself First - February 2003-

Volume II, Issue II

Welcome to the "Live Your Best Newsletter", February 2003

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In this Issue:

1. Rachna's Note

2. Forgive Yourself First

3. In the News

4. Opportunities & Resources

5. Quotable Quote

6. Invitation to Live Your Best

7. Subscribe/Unsubscribe Information

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Rachna's Note

February 2003

Dear Reader,

Hello, and welcome to our February issue. The focus

of this month's feature article is on forgiveness-

and how you can forgive yourself, first- so you

can be kinder, gentler, and more understanding

with the other important people in your life.

I hope you enjoy it. See you next month,

Rachna

p.s. Thank you for passing this newsletter on to your

friends & family- this is how we grow!

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Forgive Yourself First

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I've been thinking, some, lately, about the idea of

forgiveness. If you take the word, "forgive" apart,

you have two words: for, and give. For might mean,

"in favor of", and give, might mean, "to offer as a

present". So, then, forgive might mean "in favor of

offering as a present".

You might have heard the term, "forgiveness is a

gift you give yourself, first.", and this, actually,

is the focus of this article. As I move through my day-

going to the bank, or standing in line at the grocery

store, or coaching my clients on the telephone, I am

struck, again and again, by how self-critical and

self-judgmental people are. A woman at the bank adds

her deposit incorrectly, and she says, "I always do

that. I'm horrible with math." An elderly woman in

the grocery store apologizes, "Sorry, honey, I'm

too old to move any faster." Some of my clients,

on the phone, say things like, "I'm so stupid.

I can't believe I did that. I know better than

that. That was dumb. Now I'll never get hired.

What if I end up looking stupid? What if I fail?

I must have been crazy to think I could pull this

off…"

Based on these occurrences, it seems like many

of us spend time blaming and judging ourselves

for our faults- whether or not these faults

really exist. For the woman in the bank: couldn't

there be another reason why she added her deposit

incorrectly? Could she have laughed, and said,

instead, "Oh- oops. I've just been so busy! Or

"Oh- thanks for catching that." For the elderly

woman in the grocery store: couldn't she have

said, "I like to take my time when I'm shopping?"

or "excuse me, please pass me- I'll be here for

a minute." Or, during coaching: "Well, that

didn't turn out like I hoped. How could I do

it differently next time?"

In all these examples, the people involved could

have found a way to acknowledge the exact same

situation- but from a place of self-acceptance/

forgiveness, rather than one of self-blame,

self-judgment, or self-criticism. Sometimes,

it's almost like we're so used to criticizing

ourselves that we do it to ourselves first-

right away- so no one else gets the chance.

This month, in the spirit of giving yourself a

gift, why not aim for a bit more self-praise

and a little less self judgment? You'll find

your sense of joy and enthusiasm begin to rise,

as you realize that you really are wonderful-

and shouldn't change a thing.

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In the News/Other News

This month, I'm quoted in:

Tulsa World Family Reporter: Valentine's Day Conundrums

Other News:

I've recently become Director of Operations for

Sales Coach Training, a program that trains sales

professionals to become sales coaches. There are

estimated to be 18 million sales professionals in

the world, and only a few thousand coaches. This

is a great time to become a Certified Sales Coach

and fill a huge need in the industry. Contact me

if you'd like more information on this exciting

opportunity. Also, check out opportunities &

resources to find out how you can request a

sales coach training tape

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Opportunities & Resources

Coaching Groups:

**Next Get it Done! Dissertation Coaching Group**

The next "Get it Done!" Dissertation Coaching Group

starts on Wednesday, February 26, 2003 from

8:45-9:45pm Eastern. For details, email:

coach6-22144@autocontactor.com

Coach Training:

**Live Coach Training in Maryland**

Have you ever thought of becoming a coach? Or about

adding coaching skills to your existing skill-set?

If so, join me and my friend & colleague, Sue Guiher,

in Columbia, Maryland, on the March 7, 8 & 14 & 15 2003,

where we'll assist you in gaining the skills needed to

become a Certified Coach. We'll have a lot of fun, and

help you join the growing ranks of professional coaches.

This training might even be a tax deductible expense.

For more information, contact Sue@coachinginstruction.com,

with "MD Live Training" in the subject line.

Books:

**Continued Special on Get it Done!**

Want to complete your dissertation once and for all?

5% off individual copies of the book, plus

we'll even pay for shipping. Click

http://www.excelwitheasecoaching.com/catalog.htm

to order. This special only applies to individual books

purchased directly from the website. 5% discount on the

ebook version, too!

** Want to Achieve Success as a Coach?**

I teamed up with 8 other coaches to share our best

practice building strategies. If you're a coach, or

other service professional, who is ready to grow your

business profitably, with ease and joy, you can order

the book at:

http://www.excelwitheasecoaching.com/coaching_success.htm

**Fr^e/Almost Fr^e Stuff**

** Sales Coach Training Tapes **

Want to learn more about sales coaching and how it

can help you become more comfortable with selling

your product or service? If so, request our sales

coach training tape by emailing info@salescoachtraining.com

with "Tape Request" in the subject line. Tapes are

almost fr^e, as a $3 S/H charge applies. When your

request is received, you will be contacted to make

shipping & payment arrangements.

**Celebrate Valentine's Day All Year Long**

I've created a new page on my website for fr^e offers-

this month, it's an article for couples on how to

celebrate Valentine's Day all year long.

Read it here:

http://www.MaximalHappiness.com/free_offers.htm

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Invitation to Live Your Best!

This month, forgive yourself- first.

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Quotable Quote:

If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light.

Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness,

selfishness and fears.

~~ Glenn Clark

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