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Why People Don't Heal - March 2003

Volume II, Issue III

Welcome to the "Live Your Best Newsletter", March, 2003

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In this Issue:

1. Rachna's Note

2. Why People Don't Heal

3. In the News

4. Opportunities & Resources

5. Quotable Quote

6. Invitation to Live Your Best

7. Subscribe/Unsubscribe Information

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Rachna's Note

March 2003,

Dear Reader,

Hello, and welcome to our March issue. The unceasing

snow here on the East Coast seems to have finally..

well... ceased. It will be nice to return to more

pleasing temperatures and to welcome the Spring

season in a few more weeks.

This month's feature article is on why people

don't heal- and how they can.

I hope you enjoy it. See you next month,

Rachna

p.s. Thank you for passing this newsletter on to your

friends & family- this is how we grow!

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Why People Don't Heal

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Do you know anyone who talks, almost constantly,

about all the bad or negative things that have ever

happened to him or her? A person who can remember

every sad or embarrassing thing from his/her whole life?

Have you ever stopped to wonder why these people are

like this? I have- especially because it doesn't seem

like reliving the pain ever makes it go away.

Carolyn Myss, in her book, "Why People Don't Heal-

and How They Can", talks about a kind of bonding-

"woundology" which occurs when two (or more) people

have experience a similar kind of injury, and they

"bond" around this injury. They talk about the injury,

tell the story of the events leading up the injury,

talk about how their hopes and dreams changed after

the injury- in short, they live the experience

over and over, when, in reality, the experience

may have only lasted a few minutes.

I want to make a distinction here- I'm not talking

about those people who have experienced significant

mental or emotional illness and require support to

return to health. I'm talking, rather, about the

people who are basically intact and healthy, but

maybe had one huge disappointment- more of an

emotional injury- that they've never forgiven,

and never forgotten.

For example, one of my clients went through a

terrible breakup with her boyfriend of 6 years-

it wasn't her choice, and she was devastated by

this ending. She found it difficult to know how

to move forward from this- until a similar situation

happened to a co-worker. Immediately, my client

"bonded" with this co-worker, and they swapped

gory stories of their respective break-ups.

They continued to speak the language of

"woundology"- retelling and reliving these

experiences over and over. They used the break-ups

as justification for their anger, they made their

ex-boyfriends "wrong"- they used their past

experiences to avoid new connections or

relationships- in short, they talked about the

past, but made little attempt to move on into

the future.

While there is value in sharing our pain with

another, there is a point where sharing our

pain becomes akin to holding back our own growth.

The next time you find yourself speaking the

language of "woundology" (and yes, sometimes,

we all do!) ask yourself, "what would I be

like if I could just heal this and move on?" -

and then take the very next positive action you

think of. In this way, you will begin to heal,

as you move into the wonderful potential of

your wonderful future.

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In the News/Other News

This month, I'm quoted in:

February 2003 issue Self Magazine:

Your Body's Secret Signals p. 73

February/March 2003 Issue Baby Years:

Organization for Busy Moms p. 42

Other News:

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Opportunities & Resources

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Invitation to Live Your Best!

This month, take action to let go of a past

hurt or disappointment. Heal it, drop it, and

move on.

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Quotable Quote:

Possibilitizing is overcoming while you're undergoing.

~~ Robert Schuller

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